27. Role of Friends In Dating
November 21st, 2008If you have found a great date, you will certainly be excited and want to share the
news wit your friends. Therefore, it figures that your friends will play a major role in
your dating experience. Simply by hearing from you about a date and giving their opinion
or making comments, your friends can have an impact on who you date and on the dates
that you arrange.
One of the first things that friends will do is give you an opinion about your date,
even if they have never met the individual. They will give an opinion based on what you
say about the dates you go on and what you tell about the person you are dating. While
the opinion of friends can be helpful, you also have to watch out for times when they may
be jealous and may even want to sabotage your dating experience.
That can happen in situations where your friends, or acquaintances, are envious
that you are dating someone really great. Or, it could be that one of them may even have
wanted to date the person who you happen to be dating. While this type of behavior may
not be common among friends, and certainly won't be shown by your best friend, it is
possible. As with anything else, you should pay attention to how valid or untrue the
opinion of your friends regarding you date may be.
Your friends, especially those closest to you will play a role in your dating
relationship because there are times when you and your date and friends will go out to
socialize. In those situations, it is important that your friends and your date can get along
and will enjoy being together. If there's any tension or animosity during those mutual
outings, not only will it spoil the enjoyment factor, but it could also negatively affect
friendships and the bond you have with your date.
An issue you will have to be concerned about therefore is when to introduce your
friends to your date. Since you are comfortable with your friends but they will be
strangers to your date, it's best to consider such timing from your date's perspective. You
can therefore ask or independently assess whether your date feels ready to meet some of
your friends. If you are constantly telling your friends about your date, then they may be
the ones who push to meet the person who they hear so much about. Their curiosity and
excitement to bring your date into the circle of friends could encourage you to also bring
your date forward to meet them.
When your date meets your friends, an interesting thing to do is to turn the tables
and get your date's opinion about your friends. It will be interesting because your date
will likely give you a different perspective that you didn't have before, as well as confirm
some things that you knew. By getting a different perspective, it will help you to better be
able to balance the extent to which you believe and act on opinions that your friends give
you.
It's also likely that your date will also introduce you to his or her friends. So,
again your circle of friends will be broadened and you will also have a chance to share
your opinion and a different perspective with your date. The hope will be that by meeting
people from each other's world, you will each gain a better understanding and knowledge
of each other, and that it will enhance your dates and the bond that is shared so that you
and your date become closer and have even more intimate and enjoyable dating
experiences.